Two hands offering a strawberry and a chocolate ice cream cone against a blush wall, a sweet would you rather choice for couples

These 72 would you rather questions for couples start easy, get sweeter in the middle, and end somewhere completely ridiculous. Read one out, both pick an answer, then explain yourselves. That's the whole game.

It needs no cards, no setup and nobody loses. Between two people who care about each other, it's also a sneaky way to learn how the other one thinks: what they value, what they'd never give up, and what they'll happily argue about for twenty minutes for no reason at all. Every question here is written fresh for this page.

72 questions in six rounds

They start easy, get sweeter in the middle, and end somewhere ridiculous.

  • 1 to 12EverydayQueues, mornings and work weeks.
  • 13 to 24Food and drinkSnacks, chefs and breakfasts.
  • 25 to 36TravelTrips and adventures.
  • 37 to 48Home lifeHow you like to live.
  • 49 to 60About usQuick, with lovely reasons.
  • 61 to 72SillyNo sense and no wrong answers.

Everyday would you rather questions

Start here. They're quick, and they warm you both up for the stranger ones later.

  1. Would you rather always be ten minutes early, or always be five minutes late?
  2. Would you rather have a four-day work week, or a job you love with a five-day week?
  3. Would you rather never queue again, or never sit in traffic again?
  4. Would you rather read minds for a day, or be invisible for a day?
  5. Would you rather give up your phone for a week, or coffee for a month?
  6. Would you rather have perfect handwriting, or a perfect singing voice?
  7. Would you rather wake up at 5am feeling great, or at 10am feeling average?
  8. Would you rather always know the right thing to say, or always know when to say nothing?
  9. Would you rather have a year of free groceries, or a year of free flights?
  10. Would you rather be famous for something silly, or unknown for something brilliant?
  11. Would you rather only wear comfy clothes forever, or only smart clothes forever?
  12. Would you rather be really good at one thing, or pretty good at everything?

Food and drink would you rather questions

  1. Would you rather eat the same breakfast forever, or never eat breakfast again?
  2. Would you rather give up sweet snacks, or salty snacks?
  3. Would you rather have a personal chef, or a personal baker?
  4. Would you rather only eat spicy food, or only eat bland food?
  5. Would you rather cook every night, or wash up every night?
  6. Would you rather never have pizza again, or never have rice again?
  7. Would you rather have dessert first every time, or never have dessert at all?
  8. Would you rather eat every meal outdoors, or every meal in bed?
  9. Would you rather taste every dish before ordering, or always get a surprise dish?
  10. Would you rather give up tea, or give up juice?
  11. Would you rather live above a bakery, or next door to a great street food stall?
  12. Would you rather have a fridge that restocks itself, or a kitchen that cleans itself?

Travel and adventure

Good for planning a real trip, too. If you both pick the same answer, maybe that's a sign.

  1. Would you rather take a beach holiday, or a mountain holiday?
  2. Would you rather travel by train across a continent, or sail between islands?
  3. Would you rather plan every detail of a trip, or turn up with no plan at all?
  4. Would you rather visit every country once, or one country every year forever?
  5. Would you rather go camping in the wild, or stay in a tiny city hotel?
  6. Would you rather spend a month in a cabin with no signal, or a week in a busy capital?
  7. Would you rather see the northern lights, or swim with turtles?
  8. Would you rather have a free weekend away every month, or one huge trip every year?
  9. Would you rather take a road trip with no music, or a long flight with no film?
  10. Would you rather live abroad together for a year, or travel for three months non-stop?
  11. Would you rather be a brilliant navigator, or a brilliant packer?
  12. Would you rather climb a volcano, or dive to a shipwreck?

Home life

These look small, but the answers can tell you a lot about how you'd like to live together.

  1. Would you rather have a huge garden, or a huge kitchen?
  2. Would you rather live in the middle of the city, or in the middle of nowhere?
  3. Would you rather do all the laundry forever, or all the dishes forever?
  4. Would you rather have a house by the sea, or a house by a forest?
  5. Would you rather have a spotless home that's small, or a messy home that's huge?
  6. Would you rather have a cat that acts like a dog, or a dog that acts like a cat?
  7. Would you rather have a reading nook, or a home cinema?
  8. Would you rather decorate for every holiday, or keep the same look all year?
  9. Would you rather always choose the takeaway, or always choose the film?
  10. Would you rather host every family gathering, or never host one at all?
  11. Would you rather have neighbours who are too friendly, or neighbours you never see?
  12. Would you rather sleep with the window open all year, or closed all year?

Sweet would you rather questions about the two of you

Still quick, but the reasons tend to be lovely. Ask “why?” after every one.

Would you rather…

One from the list below. Neither answer is wrong, and the reason is the best part.

Ask “why?” after every one. That’s where you learn how the other person thinks.
  1. Would you rather get a handwritten letter from me, or a surprise playlist?
  2. Would you rather relive our first date, or skip ahead and see us in twenty years?
  3. Would you rather have a lazy morning together, or a late night out together?
  4. Would you rather I plan a surprise day, or we plan a perfect day together?
  5. Would you rather we learn a language together, or learn to dance together?
  6. Would you rather celebrate our anniversary at home, or somewhere new?
  7. Would you rather hear “I'm proud of you” or “I've got this, you rest”?
  8. Would you rather have a song that's ours, or a place that's ours?
  9. Would you rather cook together, or be cooked for?
  10. Would you rather get a small surprise every week, or a big one once a year?
  11. Would you rather have a photo from every day of our life, or a video from every year?
  12. Would you rather we start a yearly tradition, or try something brand new every year?

Silly would you rather questions

No sense, no logic and no wrong answers. Defend your choice anyway.

  1. Would you rather have a tail, or whiskers?
  2. Would you rather talk like a pirate, or sing everything like an opera singer?
  3. Would you rather have a small rain cloud that follows you, or a spotlight that follows you?
  4. Would you rather sneeze glitter, or hiccup bubbles?
  5. Would you rather have a laugh track follow you around, or dramatic background music?
  6. Would you rather be able to talk to birds, or understand what babies are saying?
  7. Would you rather wear socks that are always damp, or a jumper that's always itchy?
  8. Would you rather have a rewind button, or a pause button for your life?
  9. Would you rather be the size of a cat, or have a cat the size of a horse?
  10. Would you rather only whisper, or only shout?
  11. Would you rather have hair that changes colour with your mood, or eyes that glow in the dark?
  12. Would you rather have a tiny dragon as a pet, or a tiny elephant?

How do you play would you rather as a couple?

The classic way is simple. Take turns reading a question, both answer, and both explain. Follow-up questions are very much encouraged. Once that feels familiar, try one of these twists:

  • Guess first. Before your partner answers, guess what they'll pick. Keep score if you're competitive, or just enjoy being right.
  • Answer apart, then reveal. Write your answers down separately, then compare. You'll be surprised how often you match, and how often you really don't.
  • Lightning round. Ten questions, no explanations, three seconds each. Then pick the one answer you want to hear more about.

If you'd rather talk than play, our 100 questions to ask your partner go deeper, and would you rather makes a lovely warm-up for one of these cheap date night ideas at home.

Where Our Little Thing fits

The “answer apart, then reveal” way of playing is what Our Little Thing is built around. Each day there's one question you both answer on your own, and the answers only show once you've both replied. It’s made for couples, close friends and family. The app also has a games section, including a quick game called This or That where you each choose privately and then see where you match. One game is open on the free plan, and Premium opens the full set.

Want one fresh question tonight without downloading anything? Try our free question of the day. For slower conversations, there are 60 questions for a new relationship, and you can take the game to your friends with 60 questions to ask your best friend. And if you want to know what kind of date night suits you two, take our date night quiz together.

Questions people ask

How do you play would you rather as a couple?

One of you reads a question with two options, and you both pick one and explain why. That's the whole game. The fun is in the reasons, the debates and the follow-up questions.

What makes a good would you rather question?

Two options that are both tempting, or both a little annoying, so neither answer is obvious. Questions tied to real life, like travel, food or home habits, often teach you the most about each other.

Is would you rather good for a first date?

Yes. It's light and quick, and it gives you plenty to talk about without asking anything too personal. Stick to the everyday, food, travel and silly questions early on.

How many questions should we play in one go?

Anywhere from five on a short drive to twenty on a slow evening. Stop while it's still fun. You can always pick up where you left off another night.